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Sylus Black's avatar

I think machismo, porn, video vixens, and our over-sexualized culture lead a lot of men to not view sex as an intimate act.

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Alanna Duffield's avatar

Definitely! And it's not that you have to be besotted with every person you sleep with, but the complete detachment/objectification is quite odd to me. You can be emotionally intimate without being in love.

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Amar Patel's avatar

More intimacy and tenderness would go a long way 💯 It could be a big breakthrough for a lot of guys. I like how you raised the prospect of a deeper connection… We need more candid discourse like this.

On the subject of writing, I shared this article the other day. It may be useful. https://substack.com/@amarofpatel/note/c-65536145

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Alanna Duffield's avatar

Thank you for the kind words!!

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Amar Patel's avatar

✌🏾

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Matthew Haviland's avatar

Not to be absolutely gross, but doggystyle feels like ten times better, or at least it did, when I was a person who would ever be able to attract a woman, again. Actually too good, very hard to stay with it.

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