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Ask Alanna: my friend is so tone deaf when complaining about her life

Ask Alanna: my friend is so tone deaf when complaining about her life

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Alanna Duffield
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Q: Whenever I (32F) spend time with one of my close friends (also 32F), she always complains about her life. I know we all need to vent now and again, but the things she complains about are so privileged. She’ll worry that she might not get pregnant in her “baby-making window” (she has a willing partner and no known health concerns, while I’m single and have dating exhaustion) or that she can’t find the right size curtains for the house she bought and is renovating (by contrast, I’m still renting). I find it so hard to comfort her when she does this because these are problems most of us - myself included - would love to have. 

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